Some say when it comes to dating, lust comes before love.

Time and time again women still seem to remain in a state of confusion.

Does he like me? Why hasn’t he texted or called? Maybe he forgot to pay his phone bill and it got cut off?

The self-help book turned movie “He’s Just Not That Into You” gives us the basis on whether we are the exception or the rule.

He’s just not that into you if he never takes you out in public. You aren’t in the Witness Protection Program, so you are wondering why you two are going covert.

REALITY:

He wants the company of a ‘lady friend’ but doesn’t want the commitment that public outings suggest.

He’s just not into you if he waits until the wee hours of the evening to grace you with his presence. Pacing back and forth staring at your phone all day is bad. It is even worse when your head hits the pillow at 10 p.m. and you hear that heart-stopping ding. You look at your phone just to find that his message reads “Hey.”

REALITY:

He’s bored.

Another telltale sign is how long it takes for him to message you back. If a five-minute conversation is stretched out over a 24-hour period-he’s not interested. Perhaps he has  something that envelops his time like organizing his stamp collection or whittling cheese  into dollhouse furniture.

He’s not into you if he brings up his ex in normal conversation. Dialogue like “The  weather is finally warming up,” shouldn’t be countered with “Yea, I wonder if the rose  bushes Jessica and I planted last spring have bloomed.”

REALITY:

He’s not over his ex.

Run from that rebound. He’s not into you if he won’t commit. Casual dating is normal.

However when three  months have passed by and you’re wondering where the relationship is going, the news  may not be good. He may not want to settle down or he thinks he has other options.

REALITY:

He doesn’t want to date you.

What this phenomenon has taught us most of all is that we are the rule not the exception.

In the end exceptions are a false reality made to make women feel better about not getting that text, date or spare key.

You are the rule. There is no such thing as exceptions.

Knowing someone who knows someone in which your situation worked out for them is false.

The 2010 Census published that over 21 million men in the U.S.  are in our age range of 20-30.

Never give up your new mantra “I am the rule.”

That saying “there are many fish in the sea” is true- 21 million fish to be exact.

Know how to read the signs.

He’s not showing interest?

REALITY:

He’s not interested.