1. Don’t get into a relationship for at least the first month or two of college.
You’ll end up spending a lot of time focusing on your significant other, and might miss out on college’s other opportunities and friendships!
2. Don’t do the long-distance thing (unless you’re positive that your heart is in it).
Every situation is different. One couple I knew actually ended up getting married, but they only saw each other once a year for, like, eight years.
3. If you and your high school boo end up at the same college, expect some changes in your relationship.
College brings new experiences, and opportunities for people to change. Sometimes that can be a good thing!
4. Don’t disconnect from the world the moment you start dating someone.
Focus on friendships — don’t take college romantic relationships too seriously.
5. If your relationship isn’t making you happy, don’t waste your time with it. Relationships are supposed to make you happy.
If it feels like you’re constantly trying to fix things or make yourself fit with another person, end it!
6. But in all seriousness, if your mental health is at stake because of your relationship, seek help.
Remember you’re not alone. Many of us have ended up feeling awful as a result of a college relationship, but never feel afraid to confide, get guidance, and treat yo’self!
7. Don’t throw away love for college hookups.
If you’re sure about someone, stay with that one person.
8. It’s perfectly OK to not text the person you’re dating 24/7. Enjoy life!
You might have done that in high school, but in college, it’s not sweet anymore — it’s kind of irritating. A few times a day is plenty.
9. And be very careful when drunk-texting that person you’re on and off with.
I wish someone would have warned me to avoid drunken text conversations with someone I hooked up with, because they rarely ended well.
10. Be smart and safe when it comes to sex !
This cannot be stressed enough. Make it your golden rule.
11. A failed relationship is not a death sentence for your love life or general happiness. Grab some pizza and bask in your singleness.
Find time to find yourself.
12. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes and learn from them. Fall hard and learn that if you have to get up, there will be new opportunities.
Experiment isn’t the word I’m looking for, but don’t be afraid to try new things.
13. Make sure that you love YOURSELF before starting a relationship.
If you can love yourself single, you’ll learn what you like, and you’re less likely to settle for the first sleazebag who comes along.
14. And, most importantly, you don’t have to date at all, if you’re not actually into anyone.
Don’t just date because others are dating; date if you’re seriously into someone!