Something that I can’t seem to understand is the “advice” offered in most women’s sex, love and relationship handbook: “Cosmo.”

All too often, I see articles with themes like “how to land the man of your dreams” and “getting your crush to notice you,” etc.

Here’s an idea: If someone doesn’t want you, forget about them!

Although I’ve referred to women’s magazines, this is an issue I’d like to address regardless of gender. There is no reason anyone should spend any significant amount of time pining over someone and desperately hoping to be noticed.

Perhaps I have a seemingly cold attitude in that respect, but there are far too many people in this world for anyone to waste time obsessing over someone that isn’t equally interested. Yes, they might have qualities that are endearing, but if people looked around rather than investing too much time in someone who is probably looking around themselves, they are missing out on other opportunities. Jack isn’t the only guy out there with a heart-melting smile; Jill isn’t the only girl out there with a cute dimple. The world is full of possible combinations, but healthy relationships are about timing just as much as they are about finding the right person.

Besides, in my opinion, self-respect is the most flattering quality a person can have. Just how much self-respect can someone claim to have if they degrade themselves by waiting around to be “wanted”?