Having grown up locally, I’ve noticed that most of the people around here have this idea that being in a relationship and getting married is top priority.
These people look at single people, who enjoy and appreciate being single, like they’re from outer space.
For the most part, parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents, older siblings, etc. seem to persuade this notion. Too often the picturesque image of marriage and kids is pushed and promoted more than higher education and the idea of making something of yourself.
We have time to get married and start a family later in life. What we don’t have all of the time in the world for is being young and having fun, as well as going to college and building a career.
We should strive to make something of ourselves before getting married and starting a family. We should be free to do whatever we want to do while we still can.
It’s important to live your life to the fullest while you’re young and have the energy to. Learn how to be happy by yourself and love yourself before being happy with someone else and loving someone else.
When you’re young and in college, you don’t fully know yourself yet. And, you can’t know you’re ready to get married if you don’t even know who you are.
You don’t want to tie yourself down and get married fresh out of high school, either, and later wonder what all you’re missing. Nobody wants to end up divorced with kids, child support and unnecessary emotional stress before they’re even 25.
Similar scenarios happen all too often. A girl I know got engaged at 19, was married a few months before she was 21 and is now separated before 22. I imagine that’s not quite how she wanted her life to be.
Plus, it’s financially smart to hold off on big relationships. Having a family and a home are big expenses. Building a career first can take some of the pressure off.
There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being single. Slow down. Go out with friends. Have fun. Geez, have a drink. Live it up a little. Get an education. Make something of yourself. Be happy. Love yourself.
The rest will fall into place at the right time. Experience life to the fullest without having to check with your husband or wife and kids first.
There’s no need to rush into being a full-blown adult. If you do, then you might find yourself wanting to live the single life when it’s a little too late.