Letter to the Editor: Sex before marriage meaningless; should wait

ULM Hawkeye

After a probate…sex, after a movie…sex, after a bike ride…sex, after dinner…sex, after an altercation…sex, after a party…sex, he or she comes to your dorm room or the apartment…sex. Stop. Think.

Can you see yourself with that person in the next five to 10 years? Will he or she be a great provider for the two of you? Please don’t tell me you guys have been talking for six months therefore it’s time to take it to the next level.

What will you gain from having so much sex with so many different people? I’ll answer it for you. Nothing. Nothing at all.

What a man and woman share should be something special, it’s supposed to last for a long time, a very long time. It shouldn’t just last three months, two years or five years. It should last an eternity.

Nevertheless, young college students like us make “love” look so crazy and out of style. We don’t know what the meaning of true love is and you would be lying to yourself if you said you do. It is honestly the most hurtful feeling ever to see a break up happen with your best friend and his or her significant other, knowing that after the sex was done, it was time to move on.

It’s time for us to think. It’s totally normal to date, flirt, play and have your certain crush but the truth of the matter is, we have to know how far to take certain things.

The term “waiting until marriage” has gone out of style for a lot of people. But as for me, I think it is the most beautiful thing ever. Of course you might read this and say, “It’s my life and I can live it how I please.” But at the end of the day, who are you pleasing?

There are diseases out there such as Syphilis, AIDS/HIV, and other STIs but it’s us who can prevent them by being wise and abstaining from sex.

And nowadays it is all backwards. People are realizing they “love” you after having sex with you. When in actuality, they should love you for who you are first, marry you and then you guys shall proceed with sexual intercourse.

When young people are in relationships (after the sex is over), they usually say things like, “What are you doing, I miss you” or they’ll receive a text saying, “I miss u,” or “I love you.”

In actuality, they miss whatever was given or done, which the sex.

When you’re in relationships, dating or participating in one-night stands, you’re going to realize later all of those things will not last.

Young college students should actually take time and wait on their mate who will have a strong purpose in their lives and be there for a reason, and not just for sex.

When sexual intercourse takes place in relationships, emotions become greater, the attachment increases and the trust issues start to appear. It only takes one time, one second and one day to create a powerful mistake, which is sex.

My words of wisdom are to let everyone know, you should be able to know what you want out of life.

Date yourself and enjoy you and who you are, before giving yourself to others. How could you share yourself if you haven’t learned to love yourself? And again I ask, what’s so great about sex?


Chelsea Wyatt, psychology major